mia,
i am lucky to still have my mom, and i do hug her at every possible opportunity. coming back to her and the rest of my tribe was the reason we left munich. i lost my dad 13 years ago and in some ways it still feels like yesterday, especially at the holidays. i can relate to your thoughts about the tangible things your mom left behind. each one is now imbued with some new weight and meaning. the most poignant thing i found after my dad died was a lovely wooden box in which he'd kept all of our baby teeth. i suppose he couldn't bear to throw them out after doing his thing as the tooth fairy. i cried my eyes out when i opened that box and have tears flowing now just thinking of it.
you're so much on my mind now. my good thoughts are going out to you across the miles.
love,
jane
Posted by jane at December 3, 2005 11:58 PM
I remember when I first started reading your blog, all the way back when it began. I never commented before now. I think your mother must have been very proud of what a beautiful writer you are - you've managed to capture an unimaginably difficult time in an amazing way, bringing this 'stranger' to tears. My thoughts are with you.
Posted by Luisa at December 7, 2005 7:30 PM
So sorry about your loss. I lost my dad when I was 15 so I know how you feel. Will be praying for you and your family.
By the way, I jsut stumbled upon your blog and enjoy reading it. Keep up the good works!
Posted by Elna Smith at December 9, 2005 12:42 AM
What a beautiful entry. You made me feel what it's like to lose a parent. I've lost significant people in my life and this took me back to those people.
I'm so sorry about your mom.
I was looking up Marlena De Blasi and found you by way of your fried squash blossom entry. I can't wait for summer because I'd love to make them.
This is a great site and it's prominently bookmarked under my favorites.
Take care.
Posted by Shannon at December 10, 2005 8:57 PM
Dear Mia,
you don't know me and I don't know you but I must have liked your blog as I added it to my favourites, and today, after months, I've been going through them all to see what's going on in the blog world. This is how I learnt of your loss, and I'd like to send you a big, heartfelt cyberhug. Your description brought it all back - clearing my Mum's flat last summer. Only, she isn't dead, she's got Alzheimer's, and now I can't even really talk to her on the phone. (Though I will phone her tomorrow, as it's too late tonight, Germany being an hour ahead, because as you pointed out, at least I still can...) -- My Dad died 25 years ago, went into hospital before Christmas, died at the beginning of January. Christmas was never quite the same again - for many years; you're right about that. But it will get better, it will. It may take a long time though. I wish you a lot of strength!
Posted by Zabeena at December 12, 2005 10:25 PM
My mother passed away a few months ago. My heart goes out to you. Surround yourself with people you love, and do what you need to do to grieve. Here's a poem someone sent me:
I don't know who wrote the poem, but it seems that someone sent it to Barbara Bush when she and George Bush lost their daughter who died when she was a child.
So I am glad,
Not that my loved one has gone,
But that the earth
she loved and lived on,
was my earth too;
That I had known
and loved her,
And that my love I'd shown.
Tears over her departure?
Nay, a smile,
That I had walked with her,
a little while.
Posted by Kimbie at December 14, 2005 2:42 PM
Such beautiful tributes you have written.
So sorry for your loss.
Melissa
Posted by Melissa at December 14, 2005 8:38 PM
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